Parenting Tips for Parents of Newborns to Five Year Olds - Baby Chick

Baby Constipation Remedies: How To Help a Newborn Poop

Joanna Schroyer — Tue, 30 Jan 2024 16:18:18 +0000

Most babies who appear to have newborn constipation have functional constipation.¹ This is temporary constipation caused by a diet change, growth spurt, or just being a newborn. Infants are born with weak abdominal muscles and immature sphincters, so straining to have a bowel movement can be normal, especially if they have a soft stool after a few minutes of straining.² Organic constipation is caused by a medical problem such as a disease or deformity.³

Baby constipation is common, with 3%-5% of doctor visits for children related to constipation issues.¹ As a parent, you must know your baby’s bowel movement (BM) patterns to notice changes. Then, monitor the changes to see if you need to contact your provider. Most parents worry about newborn constipation issues, but it is usually functional, and you can treat it at home.¹

How do you know if your baby is constipated? There are several signs to watch for:^2,3,4,5

A smaller number of bowel movements than normal
Stools that are hard or shaped like pellets
Large, round stool or watery stool
They’re straining more than usual
Fussiness or crying when baby is making a bowel movement, followed by hard stool
Swollen or bloated belly
Decreased intake/refusal to eat
Vomiting
Blood in the stools (often from an anal fissure)

Each baby develops bowel movement patterns once they consistently eat the same food, formula, or breast milk. So, you will notice if there is a difference in your baby’s pattern. Of course, their pattern can naturally change with age and the types of food introduced into their diet. For example, it is normal for exclusively breast-fed babies to pass gas frequently but only have a bowel movement every four to seven days.⁵ However, some breastfed babies poop after every feed!

Most formula-fed infants have anywhere from one to four BMs per day. Some infants will have a BM with every feeding, while others may go every one to three days.^3,6 Just be aware of your baby’s BM pattern and watch for changes.

Baby constipation is most common when there is a diet change for the baby. This includes changes from breast milk to formula, from one formula to another, and when solid foods are introduced. If you see a difference in your baby’s pooping pattern, or if the stool (poop) is hard and not easy to pass, your baby could be constipated.⁴

Some other causes of newborn constipation could be:^3,4,8

Not drinking enough fluid
Low fiber in the diet
Immature digestive system in newborns
Weak abdominal muscles in newborns
After an illness
A medical disease or anatomical malformation, such as Hirschprung’s disease

Regardless of the cause of your baby’s constipation, if it doesn’t resolve after two weeks with home remedies, you should contact your provider.⁷

There are many ways to help your baby poop. One of the easiest ways to relieve baby constipation is a diet adjustment.^2,4,5 Remember to experiment with the amounts of added food or liquid items. It is best to only change one thing at a time and no more than one thing per 24-hour period. You do not want to give your baby diarrhea. Also, always check with your doctor before adding water, juice, or cereal to your baby’s diet. Here are some simple ways to help your baby’s constipation:^2,4,5

Add water to their daily routine: Start with 1-2 oz daily, but not at regular feeding time. This is not recommended for young infants as people often misunderstand and add too much water, resulting in hyponatremia.
Add 100% apple, pear, or prune juice for babies, which are good for constipation: You might start with 2 oz of juice, one to two times a day, but not at regular feeding time. Go slow and follow your doctor’s orders.
Increase fiber in the diet: You can do this by adding wheat, oatmeal, or barley cereal. Avoid rice cereal, as it might cause constipation, and there are concerns it contains inorganic arsenic.⁹Limiting this is also essential as these increase calories that are not particularly beneficial to growth.

There are also other ways to help with baby constipation that don’t include a diet change to help your baby pass their stool (poop). For example, you could try body positions to help the newborn poop, the belly press trick, and rectal/anal stimulation:^4,5

Give the baby a warm bath: It can relax them and make it easier to pass the stool.
Exercise the baby’s legs like they are pedaling a bicycle: This can help stimulate the bowels.
Position or push the baby’s knees up to the chest: This puts the body in a squatting position (even though they are lying down), which helps release stool from the anus.
Gently massage or press on the belly: Start at the lower right corner of the abdomen. Move upward in a straight line, then across the belly at the belly button level toward the left side and down to the left corner.
Use a rectal thermometer to stimulate the anus: Put the thermometer in the anus as if you were taking their temperature. You can also do this with a cotton swab by adding some Vaseline to the swab and inserting it into the anus — only insert the tip of the swab.

You must contact your provider if none of the above home remedies relieve your baby’s constipation. They may suggest using a baby glycerin suppository or an enema.

If you decide to use a home remedy to help with your baby’s constipation, you should always follow your provider’s advice. If the home remedies don’t produce results after two weeks, contact your provider for further instructions. But if you see any of the following signs or symptoms in your baby, call your doctor immediately:^1,4

Blood in the stool, which could indicate an infection in babies
Black-colored stools which can mean there is blood in the digestive system
Large bloated and distended belly, along with not wanting to feed and signs of constipation
Vomiting develops after symptoms of constipation and belly bloating

Preventing baby constipation isn’t the best way to look at the situation. You never know when your baby may get constipated and need some help with passing stool. You should consistently monitor the stool for signs of constipation but can’t prevent it. And if you try too hard to prevent constipation, you may end up with the opposite problem — diarrhea.

The best way to prevent baby constipation is by following a proper diet, following your provider’s instructions about the baby’s diet, and remembering how to treat baby constipation. Here is a list of some general guidelines you can follow to try and help prevent baby constipation:⁷

Ensure plenty of fluid intake: Ensure your baby is feeding the proper number of times per day for their age. Your provider can give you this information.
Use proper amounts of fiber in the diet: Different baby foods contain different amounts of fiber. Pears, peaches, plums, and prunes (or any of their juices) contain high fiber.
Frequent monitoring of stools: It’s easy to monitor your baby’s stool since you and your family are the most frequent diaper changers. If there are fewer dirty diapers than usual or the stool seems hard and pellet-like, that’s the time to help your baby with constipation.
Regular exercise and tummy: Exercise for babies includes tummy time. This is where you lay them on their belly for a small amount of time a few times a day, moving their legs in a circular motion as if peddling a bike. Do this while playing with them or during a diaper change, and some of the swings and bouncy seats give your baby a chance to exercise.

As a pediatric registered nurse, over the years, I have heard many parents mention the fastest or most effective way that helped their baby to poop. Here are some of the “winners” of the “I got my baby to poop” category:^2,4,5

If your newborn is passing gas but not pooping, they will be pooping soon. The gas indicates the intestines are working and moving the stool along. Be patient.
The general rule for fruit juice is to give a baby 1 oz for every month of life. So, a 2-month-old can have 2 oz of fruit juice per day.
Rectal stimulation with a rectal thermometer or a cotton swab two to three times daily is one of the easiest and most effective home remedies for constipation.
Make sure the baby gets regular exercise and tummy time.
Never give a baby stool softener, laxatives, or an enema without contacting your provider.

All babies have their systems and respond to constipation home remedies differently. And since babies grow and change rapidly, you might find it frustrating to keep trying multiple remedies until you find the one that works for your baby. This is normal. Try to be patient. You will become aware of your baby’s BM pattern. Once familiar with their pattern, it will be easy to recognize signs of constipation. You can help them easily with all the tips and tricks when that happens. Then you, like many other parents and caretakers, can start your baby on the road to smooth and easy BMs. Happy diaper changing!

5-Month-Old Baby: Feeding, Sleep, and Milestones by Month

Rande Ludwig — Mon, 29 Jan 2024 11:00:37 +0000

The whirlwind adventure of your baby’s development continues to move forward at breakneck speed. Your 5-month-old baby is continuing to learn new skills, and their personality is truly starting to shine through. In this article, we will continue to explore the new developmental milestones they will achieve and how their feeding and sleeping schedules may change. We will also discuss any health concerns to be aware of and fun new activities you can do with your little one.

Strap on your hats because the next month of your baby’s development is filled with more movement and sound than ever before. This month of milestones is also filled with more social growth for your 5-month-old when their personalities will start to shine. These new milestones include:^1,2

Rolling from their tummy to back
Reaching for toys using both hands
Using their whole hand to grasp a toy
Finding toys hidden under blankets
Sitting with support
Making sounds to get your attention
May hold out their arms to be held
Recognizing familiar faces
Showing displeasure when you leave their sight

With all these new skills your baby is learning, their feeding schedule may also change. Most parents wonder when their babies can start eating baby food, and 5 months old is a great time to see if your little one is ready. Before starting solid foods, please consult your baby’s doctor to determine if they are ready. Some signs to look for that show your baby may be ready to try solid foods include:²

Can they support their head and body while sitting or being held?
Are they showing interest in your food, with actions such as grabbing for your food?
If your baby shows these signs and your doctor has confirmed they are ready to start solid foods, it is best to start small. Start with small amounts of finely pureed single-ingredient foods, such as baby cereal or a single veggie puree.

It is important to remember that while your baby may be ready to start trying solid food, the bulk of their diet will still come from breast milk or formula. So, how much of this should a 5-month-old eat? Your baby should still have 3-5 ounces of breast milk or formula every two to four hours.¹⁰

As your baby enters their fifth month, their sleeping patterns will become more predictable. 5-month-old babies require 12-16 hours of sleep per day. At this age, your baby typically sleeps about three to four hours during the day, divided into two or three naps. Some babies continue to take shorter, more frequent naps. If you have concerns about your baby’s sleep, contact your pediatrician.²

Now is the perfect time to start if you have not started a bedtime routine with your little one. The best time to begin your routine is about 30 minutes before you are ready to put them down to sleep for the night. Your routine should consist of three to four quiet activities: feeding, bath time, storytime, and song time. You can start the bedtime routine with a feeding to help get your little one used to falling asleep without feeding first.⁴

Now that you have made it out of the newborn stage, a daily routine is possible and can be more easily maintained. Your 5-month-old’s feeding times will be much more consistent, and their wake times will be lengthened, allowing for more play time and outings. Consistent nap times will help you maintain structure in your baby’s day while ensuring your little one gets enough sleep.

It is recommended that a 5-month-old baby takes at least two naps, usually three, per day or sleeps for a total of three to four hours during the day. A sample schedule might look like a first nap around two hours after they have awoken for the day, lasting about one and a half to two hours. Then, once they wake, perhaps a feeding and some playtime can follow. A second nap might happen around two hours after waking from their morning nap and last another one and a half to two hours. Another feeding and some more playtime might follow that. You could aim for a bedtime of 7-8 p.m., so starting their bedtime routine around 6:30-7 p.m. can give your little one plenty of time to wind down for the night.⁴

Your baby will not have a standard well-child checkup at five months, as those typically happen at 4 and 6 months. Not having a well-child checkup makes some parents wonder if their baby is growing enough. On average, many babies at 5 months old double their birth weight. It is best to remember that not all babies grow at the same rate. This can happen due to family history, whether your baby has any underlying medical conditions, and how much they eat.⁵ Your baby may have more frequent doctor visits than is standard if their doctor needs to monitor their weight.

While there may not be a standard well-child checkup at 5 months old, you must be aware of some common illnesses your little one can catch. These include the following:⁶

Colds with a runny nose, sneezing, congestion, cough, and fussiness
Diarrhea and vomiting caused by a virus
Ear infections
Hand, foot, and mouth disease – Causing sores around or inside the mouth and typically a rash on the palms of their hands and soles of their feet

Most infants can overcome these common illnesses, but it is essential to seek medical help if your baby starts to show any of these symptoms:⁶

A fever lasting longer than three days
Ear pain
Signs of dehydration, such as dry or cracked lips, decreased amount of wet diapers, and a decrease in tears
Difficulty breathing
Increased fussiness
Decreased energy

Now that your baby is more active and mobile, their playtime will also become more active. Here are some activities you can do with your baby to help engage them with playtime and achieve their 5-month milestones:^7,8

Stack blocks and knock them down
Have toys of a variety of shapes, sizes, and colors for your baby to choose from, feel, and look at
Read books with simple pictures and faces
Place a toy slightly out of reach to encourage them to move toward it
Repeat any sounds they make and have a back-and-forth conversation with them
Hide a toy under a blanket and encourage them to find it
Help your baby learn cause and effect by giving them back the toys they have dropped
Play peek-a-boo

With more mobility comes an added need to ensure your baby remains safe in your home. Assessing your home and looking for ways your baby could become injured is important. Some things to keep in mind include:⁹

Placing baby gates at the top and bottom of stairs. Read our baby-proofing checklist and see the top baby safety products for baby-proofing your home.
Removing any small objects such as coins, balloons, or batteries from their reach
Use the correct size car seat and ensure you’ve installed it correctly by ensuring the straps are at the correct height and it is facing backward
Never leave them unattended, especially with young children or pets
Using a slip-resistant tub for bathing and only filling it 2-3 inches with warm water
Placing your baby on their back to sleep with no blankets, pillows, bumper pads, or toys in their crib
Using a firm crib mattress with a snugly fit bottom sheet
Removing all mobiles from their crib before leaving them unattended to sleep

Your little one’s adventure of growth and development is an exciting process to witness. As you move through this journey of new milestones and changing schedules, remember that every baby is unique and will reach these new milestones at a different pace. Cherish these moments, and savor the incredible bond you are building with your baby.

12 Signs of a High-Needs Baby and What You Can Do

Danielle Rush — Thu, 25 Jan 2024 11:00:19 +0000

Having a newborn is life-changing. This new little one relies on you to fulfill their every need — a demanding job. Personalities become quickly apparent, and preferences are made known. First-time and seasoned parents are greeted with fresh challenges as they navigate this new person. And sometimes, parents must navigate life with a high-needs baby.

What does it mean when your baby is more demanding, intense, and draining than others? A high-needs baby requires more attention, more intuitiveness, and a lot of grace. While it may seem like no end is in sight, you will make it through with the right strategies and support.

It should be no secret — babies cry. Crying is a normal form of communication that infants rely on to make their needs known. Babies who have issues with early behaviors of crying, sleeping, and feeding will often receive the title of “a difficult” baby.¹

“High-needs baby” is not a medical diagnosis, and because of this, there is limited research available. Instead, this term describes a behavior pattern that affects approximately 20% of newborns.² Most of what we know of high-needs newborns results from parent experience and hallmark characteristics.

It is essential to identify a high-needs baby so you can have a better understanding and plan to meet your child’s needs while maintaining your sanity.

You may have a high-needs baby if their behaviors are consistently more extreme than other children. Medical experts identify 12 trademark features of a high-needs baby. They are:³

High-needs babies seemingly overreact to everything with demanding cries, loud protestations, and ravenous feedings. The baby’s feelings are evident in their everyday activities and tense body language.

The intensity of a high-needs newborn’s reaction is incredibly demanding on the caregiver. They want now, not in a few minutes. You may feel as though your newborn’s behavior is controlling what you do.

Being “hyperactive” is a trait with a negative connotation. But for a baby, hyperactivity describes the muscles and mind always being ready to go and rarely willing to sit still or be calm.

A super sensitive, high-needs baby is highly aware of the environment around them. This leads to an easily startled baby who prefers the safety of their environment and is resistant to other caregivers. In addition, they react in a big way when something bothers them.

High-needs babies are described as clingy, consistently preferring the comfort of their primary caregiver. New people and new places cause anxiety for the baby. Screaming often ensues when they find themselves in another’s arms.

A high-needs baby only wants to be held and cries when they’re put down. They crave your touch and movement as their safe place. Baby-wearing may become your specialty.

Instead of using a pacifier, thumb, or other object to self-soothe, a high-needs baby prefers their caregivers to help them be calm. They need lots of help falling asleep. These babies must learn to trust that their parents will teach them to relax.

The intensity and hyperactivity of a high-needs infant carry through to the nighttime. Their restlessness is a product of their ultra-sensitive nature and ability to overreact to stimuli. Because they generally crave physical contact and have difficulty self-soothing, high-needs babies don’t transition well into dreamland when they are put down.⁴

Despite your best efforts, your high-needs baby never seems satisfied, content, or comfortable. As a parent, this can be incredibly frustrating and defeating.

High-needs newborns are constantly fluid in their likes and dislikes. What worked yesterday does not work today. This is the same for their emotional intensity. Frequent mood swings leave no middle ground between happy and angry.

High-needs babies often seek comfort with feeding. Breastfeeding is incredibly comforting. You may find that your baby asks to be fed frequently but only breastfeeds for a few minutes.

Because of the other characteristics, it might feel like high-needs babies require every bit of energy from you, and it never feels like enough. With all the love and energy you pour into your little one, it can feel draining.

It is important to remember that having a high-needs baby is not your fault. We do not know why some babies have more sensitive and reactive temperaments. As with the personalities of children and adults, infants also have different dispositions, with some requiring much more attention than others.

Some limited research suggests that babies with regulatory behavior problems — excessive crying and issues with sleep and feeding — are at higher risk for developing behavioral problems as they grow.^2,5Some research has shown an association between an older infant’s 12 month-behavior and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) in preschoolers.⁶

Many high-needs newborns have changes in their temperament as they age, which can be shaped by their environment, early prevention, and interventions for significant issues.⁵

A high-needs baby does not mean your child has autism or is on the spectrum. Subtle signs of autism can be observed before age 2. These signs generally relate to language development, play with peers and alone, eye contact, response to their name, and repetitive behaviors.⁷

If you are concerned about the signs of autism or your child is at a genetically higher risk for autism, do not hesitate to speak with your pediatrician.

Caring for a high-needs infant can be emotionally and physically taxing for parents and caregivers. Infant feeding and crying difficulties are associated with parental anxiety, depression, and bonding issues.¹ Here are some suggestions for coping with your high-needs infant.

More than likely, your infant’s demands are temporary. As they grow and develop emotionally and physically, they will become more consistent, independent, and communicative. It is hard to recognize this when you are in the thick of it, but relief is on the way.

Set low expectations for daily tasks. Your baby’s needs will be the priority. Accept that you will have good days and bad days, days when you feel like a failure, and other days that are great successes. Forgive yourself for feelings of guilt, frustration, annoyance, and resentment.

Our perception that a baby should be independent and proficient at self-soothing is an adult desire but not the baby’s reality. They know nothing of this. The child-parent attachment is strong, and infants do not see themselves as separate from their parents.

Your high-needs baby is unpredictable and inconsistent. So, you must be flexible and fluid with your attempts to comfort and satisfy. Be willing to play a continual game of trial and error. Accept that one technique will work some days, but the next day may require something new.

You will quickly learn that your baby has a language of its own. Focus on the differences in your baby’s fussiness and cries to identify their needs. Try to find some consistency in their likes and dislikes. This will help you react appropriately to their needs sooner.

Because of your baby’s vast array of daily likes and dislikes, you must develop various strategies to fulfill their needs or help them relax. Take notes if it helps.

Recognize your role as a parent to provide comfort, ensure safety, and guide them even on the most challenging days. While you’ll have tough days, resist the urge to feel like a victim or that your child is doing anything on purpose. Despite their behavior, your baby is only doing what it knows how to do to be comforted or fed.

It is essential to discuss your concerns about your infant’s behavior and advocate for your mental health. Gaining support from your partner, family, or friends can help you get through the most challenging days. Joining a parent community, even a virtual one, will give you an outlet to share your frustrations and commonalities with others.

A high-needs baby can make parenting feel like a black hole, and relief can feel light years away. It is vital for your well-being that you develop stress-coping skills and strategies for meeting your little one’s needs.

Introducing New Foods to Baby With Yogurt Feeding Hacks

Jamie Adams — Wed, 24 Jan 2024 11:00:32 +0000

Ready to start feeding your little one, or is the intimidation kicking in? The journey of introducing new foods to a baby can be both exciting and challenging. While providing a diverse and nutritious diet is essential, as a mom of two under three, I know firsthand it’s not always easy to get our little ones to embrace unfamiliar flavors. Here, I will share some creative feeding hacks I learned along the way. I hope these yogurt hacks help make the feeding process enjoyable for you and your baby, too!

Before we dive into some fun feeding hacks using yogurt, you might wonder why we recommend yogurt for babies. Let’s explore why yogurt is an excellent choice for introducing new foods to your baby and why Stonyfield YoBaby yogurt is our favorite option.

Stonyfield YoBaby Organic yogurt has essential nutrients for your baby’s growth and development. Its calcium, vitamin D, and protein support healthy bone development and overall well-being.^1,2,7,8 It’s made without the use of harmful additives, artificial flavors, and preservatives, making it a wholesome and safe choice.

One of the standout features of YoBaby yogurt is the inclusion of probiotics. These beneficial bacteria promote a healthy digestive system, supporting your baby’s gut health.^3,9 Introducing yogurt early can reduce the risk of digestive issues.^4,9

3. Texture and Taste

Babies and toddlers are notoriously picky eaters, but YoBaby yogurt has a smooth texture and delicious taste. The mild and creamy consistency often appeals to young taste buds, making it a favorite among little ones (and parents). The subtle sweetness of yogurt helps ensure that introducing new foods becomes a delightful experience.

Now that you know all the benefits of yogurt for babies, let’s dive into how you can use yogurt to help introduce new foods to your baby as you embark on your feeding journey.

Starting with cereal is a common step in a baby’s culinary journey. And rightly so, given its high iron content and ease of preparation.⁵ To make it more appealing, consider mixing baby food cereal with yogurt. Mix one tablespoon of baby food cereal directly into a cup of yogurt. The creamy texture of the yogurt adds a delightful twist, making it more palatable for your little one. Experiment with various YoBaby yogurt flavors to discover your baby’s favorite.

Research shows that introducing peanuts early may help reduce allergy risk.⁶ Experts recommend introducing nuts and peanuts between 4 and 11 months of age. However, whole nuts come with choking hazards, and the stickiness of nut butters poses a challenge when attempting to introduce them to your little one. Mixing a teaspoon of nut butter with a cup of YoBaby yogurt can help thin out the nut butter, making it easier for your little one to enjoy. This is a great way to introduce nut butters to your baby for allergy prevention and boosts flavor!

Incorporating fruits into your baby’s diet provides many vitamins and minerals. Dice or mash fruits and mix them directly into your YoBaby yogurt cup. Some fruits that you can easily mash up and stir into yogurt include:

Strawberries
Bananas
Blueberries
Raspberries
Peaches
Plums
Apricots
Mangoes

For a refreshing treat, try creating yogurt fruit popsicles (see our instructions below). These frozen delights not only introduce new flavors but also soothe teething discomfort.

Getting your baby to enjoy vegetables can be daunting. However, blending veggies into a creamy yogurt puree might do the trick. You can also make veggie yogurt bites — a convenient and mess-free way to offer a yummy snack.

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Veggie yogurt bites are a mess-free way to offer your baby a tasty snack, combining a variety of vegetables with YoBaby yogurt in one go!

1/2 cup mixed vegetables (carrots, peas, broccoli, etc.), steamed and finely chopped
1/2 cup YoBaby yogurt
2 tablespoons finely grated cheese (optional)
1/4 cup whole wheat flour
1 egg
1/4 teaspoon garlic powder (optional)
Salt and pepper to taste
Olive oil for greasing

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Preheat your oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit and grease a mini muffin tin with a small amount of olive oil.
Combine the finely chopped mixed vegetables in a mixing bowl with YoBaby yogurt. If you’re using grated cheese, add it to the mixture, and mix well.
Stir in the whole wheat flour and crack in the egg. Mix the ingredients thoroughly until you have a well-combined batter.
Add garlic powder (if using), salt, and pepper to taste. Adjust the seasonings based on your baby’s preferences.
Spoon the batter into the mini muffin tin, filling each cup almost to the top.
Bake in the preheated oven for approximately 15-18 minutes or until the bites are golden brown and set in the center.
Allow the veggie yogurt bites to cool in the muffin tin for a few minutes before transferring them to a wire rack to cool completely.
Once cooled, these bites can be served directly to your baby. They are a convenient and mess-free way to introduce vegetables and yogurt in a tasty package.

Feel free to customize the recipe based on your baby’s preferences and dietary needs. These veggie yogurt bites are a great way to encourage your baby to enjoy a variety of vegetables in a fun and manageable form.

The versatility of yogurt allows for a variety of ways in which you can introduce foods to a baby. You can try spoon-feeding, dipping, drizzling, and so much more!

A visually appealing bowl can make mealtime more exciting for your baby. Arrange different foods colorfully and invitingly. Combine textures like crunchy waffle sticks and soft fruits to create a sensory-rich experience. Allow your baby to dip their favorite foods into the bowl of yogurt, offer them a spoon to dive right in, or drizzle it on top of their food. The versatility of yogurt allows you to experiment with various combinations, ensuring your baby gets a well-rounded meal.

Tiny popsicle molds are not just for warm weather. Use them to create yogurt popsicles with added food items for variety. These frozen treats can be a lifesaver during teething episodes, relieving your baby’s sore gums. The cooling effect and the delicious taste of YoBaby yogurt make this feeding hack a win-win.

All you need is a popsicle mold and a combination of whole fruit and yogurt. Mash up some whole fruit (or puree it in a blender), mix it with a cup of yogurt, pour this into a popsicle mold, and let it sit in your freezer overnight. Play with fruit and yogurt combinations to find your baby’s favorite. Some of our favorites include:

Mixed berries
Pineapple mango
Strawberry banana
Blueberry peach

For a mess-free feeding experience, try freezing yogurt in mesh pacifiers. This introduces a new method of consumption and serves as a soothing remedy for teething discomfort. The mesh pacifiers ensure your baby enjoys the yogurt without the risk of choking or making a mess.

As you embark on this journey of introducing new foods to your baby, consider these tips for a smooth and enjoyable experience:

Take it slow and introduce one new food at a time. This allows your baby to adjust to flavors and textures without feeling overwhelmed. Watch their reactions and proceed accordingly.

Every baby is unique, and their preferences may vary. Pay attention to your baby’s cues and expressions during mealtime. This will help you understand their likes and dislikes, allowing you to tailor their meals accordingly.

3. Maintain a Balance

Strive for a balance of flavors and textures in your baby’s meals. Mixing and matching different food groups enhances nutritional value and keeps mealtime interesting for your little one.

Introducing new foods to your baby can be a delightful adventure with the right feeding hacks and the goodness of YoBaby yogurt. Experiment with these creative ideas, pay attention to your baby’s cues and relish the joy of watching them explore the world of flavors. Enjoy this bonding time over meals and create positive associations with nutritious foods.

As you embark on this journey, remember that each baby is unique, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Share your experiences, learn from other parents, and savor the precious moments of discovering your baby’s favorite foods. Happy feeding!

Cross-Eyed Baby: What It Means and What To Do

Kirsten White — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 11:00:12 +0000

Newborns sleep most of the day away. In their short stints of alertness during the day, many parents simply want to stare into their new baby’s eyes. When observing your little one’s gaze, they may seem cross-eyed. Seeing a cross-eyed baby may worry you.

This may be normal depending on your baby’s age and the frequency you notice your newborn’s eyes crossed. If you are concerned about your newborn with crossed eyes, read on to learn whether your baby is genuinely cross-eyed, when they may grow out of their crossed eyes, and some causes and solutions for cross-eyed babies.

Babies can sometimes appear cross-eyed even when they are not. If their nose has a wide nasal bridge, this can give the illusion that one eye turns in more than the other. They can also seem cross-eyed if they have an extra fold of skin on the inner eyelid. This extra fold can cover more of the white of the eye, making it appear like your baby has asymmetrical eyes.¹

If it is not the skin or the nose causing your baby to appear cross-eyed, your baby’s eyes may be misaligned or pointing in different directions. Your baby’s eyes may cross only occasionally, or they may always appear crossed. One or both eyes can point in, out, up, or down instead of straight ahead and parallel.²

There are two common causes of what parents describe as “crossed eyes.” The first is when the eyes are actually crossed, which is caused by a problem with the muscles that make the eyes move. The second is more commonly known as a “lazy eye.” A lazy eye can be caused by crossed eyes that are left untreated. It can also happen when the vision is poorer in one eye, so the brain only uses one eye to see, and the other eye becomes “lazy.”^3-16

It can be normal for the eyes of very young babies to cross occasionally. Their eyes and ocular muscles have not had much practice in your dark womb, so they are uncoordinated. But if you are wondering when do babies’ eyes change, the answer is around four months. Your baby’s eyes should straighten out after 4 to 6 months. If they do not align around your baby’s half-birthday, your baby’s uneven eyes may not be normal.²

A pediatric ophthalmologist should evaluate babies who remain cross-eyed beyond 4 months. If they are still cross-eyed at 1 year of age, they may be diagnosed with strabismus. It is most often diagnosed between the ages of 1 and 4 but rarely can be diagnosed up until the age of 6.²

Your pediatrician should perform regular eye exams at your baby’s well-child visits. These are the best ways to detect any issues with crossed eyes. If the pediatrician notices crossed eyes during an exam of your baby, they may refer you to an eye doctor for further testing and treatment. It is essential to diagnose strabismus early to treat and resolve it.²

Here are some factors that could cause your little one to be cross-eyed:

Premature babies are at risk for retinopathy of prematurity, in which blood vessels grow abnormally in the eye.¹⁷ This condition has been shown to increase the risk of crossed eyes.¹⁸

Family History

People with parents or siblings with strabismus are more likely to have it themselves. This suggests a genetic link to weakened eye muscles.^19,20

In some cases of a cross-eyed baby, it is not the eye muscles at fault but the nerves that control those muscles. If your child has suffered a stroke or head injury or has cerebral palsy or Down syndrome, their ocular nerves may struggle to make both eyes focus in alignment, causing crossed eyes. In addition, rare medical conditions may affect your child’s vision, which can lead to the appearance of being cross-eyed or having a “lazy eye” because one eye does not have the same vision as the other.²⁰

If a child is vision-impaired with near- or far-sightedness, they may compensate by straining to see. This visual straining can cause the eyes to drift apart or misalign and become crossed over time.²¹

If you notice a cross-eyed baby, remember that this can be normal in the first four months of life. Their eye muscles may need to adjust to the outside world. In these first few months, there are some things you can do at home to strengthen crossed newborn eyes:

High-contrast images such as black-and-white cards are easier for your baby to focus on. Expose them to many images and environments.²²

Hold an image or toy 8 to 10 inches from your infant’s face; this is the optimal distance for seeing until 4 months old. Slowly move the object from side to side, encouraging your cross-eyed baby to maintain their focus on it. You can also encourage the tracking of objects by moving or turning your baby slowly around a room. This allows them to practice tracking objects and switching focus.²²

Maintain Balance

Alternate the side that you hold your baby to feed, and switch up the side of the crib on which you lay them down to sleep. This allows both eyes to strengthen evenly as your baby looks out and practices seeing equally out of both eyes and turning their head in each direction.²²

While it may be tempting to wait out your baby’s crossed eyes to see if they improve on their own, this will likely make the crossed eyes worse, not better. Children are unlikely to outgrow cross-eyes. As the stronger eye becomes more dominant, the crossed eye can become more prominent and “lazy.” ²⁰

If your baby’s crossed eyes persist beyond four months, mention it to their primary care provider. You may be eager to fix your baby’s crossed eyes, but it is often best to leave this to professionals.

In the most common diagnosis for crossed eyes (strabismus), the treatment is to strengthen the weaker eye. The best way to do this is to suppress vision in the stronger eye, thereby encouraging the child’s brain to work to focus with the weaker eye. You can achieve this using glasses, an eye patch, or glasses. Very rarely, crossed eyes in babies may need surgical repair.²

Often, a young cross-eyed baby is nothing to worry about and will resolve independently. Encourage your baby to focus, turn their head in each direction, and see with both eyes. If your baby’s crossed eyes persist or worsen, or you are concerned, your pediatrician should be able to help you determine the next steps. It is good to pay attention to your baby’s eye alignment, as early discovery and treatment of crossed eyes provide the best outlook for their alignment and vision.²

13 Ways Dads Can Be Involved in Baby Care

Aaron Martin — Mon, 22 Jan 2024 18:27:46 +0000

The first few weeks of becoming a dad are the greatest and most frustrating. You’re there for every moment, wanting to help and contribute. Ultimately, it’s difficult for new dads to connect and bond with a newborn baby the same way a mother can. We can’t soothe with breastfeeding. There’s that special connection between mom and baby that we can’t replicate. However, it doesn’t mean dads can’t be a tremendous help! Here are some notes I took after my daughter Adley was born on how I can help my wife the most. These are more than just suggestions. With another baby on the way this spring, they are good reminders for me, too!

13 Ways for Dads to Be Involved in Baby Care

Here are some ways to be a better dad and partner when your baby arrives:

1. Find Out What Your Partner Needs

This may seem simple, but it can be easy to get overwhelmed by the craziness of childbirth and the aftermath. Your partner likely just went through a traumatic experience giving birth and will need time to recover. Ask what you can do to help her during that time. Sometimes, a new dad should take care of the baby for a couple of hours so she can take a nap. Other times, it means watching the older kids so she has time to bond with the new baby. Ensure your partner feels loved and supported, especially in those first few days.

2. Clearly Communicate the Division of Labor

One of the biggest hurdles new parents face is not communicating wants and expectations. It’s an easy thing to set aside when you’re sleep-deprived and dealing with a completely new reality. Making sure you’re both on the same page leads to more understanding and a happier environment for everyone (baby included). A 2020 study on fathers’ involvement with newborns found both parents were happier when things were communicated clearly and tasks distributed fairly, compared to leaving most of the work to the mother.¹

3. Help With Overnight Feedings

This is one I can’t recommend to dads enough. There can be pressure on mothers to handle all the overnight feedings, particularly if they are breastfeeding. However, it doesn’t have to be this way. When my daughter, Adley, was born in 2020, my wife and I would rotate feedings through the night. I would give Adley a bottle of either breastmilk or formula when it was my turn. This not only allowed me to remove some of the burden from my wife but also allowed us to get a little more sleep. Five to six consecutive hours can make a big difference.

4. Take Advantage of Your Baby’s Portability

Speaking from experience, it can be easy to fall into the trap of keeping your baby inside the house too much. It’s safe, everything you need is close by, and it’s predictable. But take advantage of your baby’s portability. Dads, if you need to run to the hardware store or see a friend, bring the baby with you! Getting outside in different environments is good stimulation for a baby. Plus, it’s much easier to do before they get too mobile.

5. Take Time off From Work

Let me preface this by saying I know this won’t be an option for everyone. Only 11 states and the District of Columbia offer paid family leave, with the time varying from state to state.² But if your job offers paternity leave, or you have vacation time saved up, TAKE IT! A 2019 study found children whose fathers took at least two weeks off work felt a closer bond nine years later.³ This can also help establish a routine with your baby to make life easier for mom and dad.

6. Have Fun With Your Baby

Those first few weeks involve learning your baby’s needs and finding a routine. Soon, you’ll start noticing them more awake and aware of what’s happening around them. While doing things like skin-to-skin contact with baby and dad is essential, don’t forget to take time to enjoy the fun moments, too. Play peek-a-boo, make silly faces, and do tummy time. These moments you’ll never forget will help create a stronger bond between daddy and baby.

7. Offer Your Partner a Break

Giving birth is the equivalent of major surgery. But unlike major surgery, a tiny human comes home with you, and it’s your job to keep it alive. Between recovery and breastfeeding, your wife/partner will likely be drained physically and mentally. Offer to step in and help as much as you can. Take the baby for a walk in the neighborhood or offer to put the baby down for a nap. Even the smallest gestures can make a difference and lead to a happier and healthier partnership.

8. Master the Diaper

Before my daughter Adley was born, I changed zero diapers. I can probably count on one hand how many babies I held, too. This is to say I had no experience and no idea what I was doing. The good news is I learned how to change a diaper quickly. You will, too! I assigned myself the job of diaper changer. I’m sure this is in the “How to be a Good Dad” handbook. It’s a task no one likes to do, but I knew it was something I could take off my wife’s plate. Practice on a doll before the baby comes, and watch how the nurses do it in the hospital. You’ll be an expert quickly, making you very popular at home.

9. Clean Bottles and Pumps

After becoming a father, I never expected how much additional cleaning it entails. Washing bottles is a daily, time-consuming task. If your partner is breastfeeding, the pump must also be cleaned regularly. My suggestion is don’t ask; do it. This is one of the best ways to make yourself useful when the baby is napping or spending time with mom.

10. Help Manage Visitors

When the baby is born, EVERYONE will want to meet them. It’s a special time, and it can be wonderful to share. But it can also be overwhelming. Act as the gatekeeper. Identify when is a good time and when is a bad time to have visitors. Also, don’t be afraid to end a visit early or cancel. They will understand. It’s your baby; you get to make the rules.

11. Read to Your Baby

It may seem strange to read to a baby who’s only opening their eyes for minutes at a time. But it can make a big difference. An Ohio State study found that kids who are read just one book a day by their parents will hear around 290,000 more words by the time they enter kindergarten compared to kids who aren’t read to.⁴ Even early on, the benefits can be significant.

12. Cook Dinner

This isn’t directly related to caring for a baby, but dads who do this know why it’s crucial. Between recovery and possibly breastfeeding, your partner will be even more tired than you are. Cooking her favorite meal or something simple for the two of you will take a weight off her shoulders. It’s one less thing she has to think about. It’s also something you can both enjoy together.

13. Plan a Date Night

Nothing changes your life like having a baby. You no longer have the freedom to go out when you want or spend time together like you used to. Once your partner is fully recovered, find a babysitter and have a night for yourselves. It can be easy to get lost in parenting and forget about each other, but nothing makes a family stronger than a happy mom and dad.

Seeing your baby born will be one of the most memorable moments of your life, and that’s when the hard part begins. There is no shortage of ways for dads to help with baby care, especially in those initial days and months. That doesn’t mean casually saying, “Let me know how I can help.” Offer specific ideas, learn what chores are most burdensome on your partner, and, most importantly, listen. Being an attentive dad is a skill that will come in handy. It will also allow for bonding between a dad and newborn, creating a connection that can last a lifetime.

How To Create a Secure Attachment With Your Baby

Rachel Tomlinson — Fri, 19 Jan 2024 17:15:55 +0000

Attachment is the unique relationship or bond between you and your baby. The quality of this bond can vary, but a secure attachment bond or style with your baby is all about the wordless, emotional exchanges between the two of you that help your baby feel safe and calm.¹ Attachment is a critical factor that underpins how your little one develops socially, emotionally, and even physically.

Does your baby cry when you leave them? Do they quickly recover when you return? They are likely experiencing secure attachment. So, what does that mean? The definition of secure attachment in psychology (developed initially and explored by Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby) explains how a primary caregiver’s sensitivity and responsiveness to their child’s needs create a sense of trust, resilience, and confidence. Attachment theories suggest that when caregivers are aware of and responsive to their child’s needs, the child develops a sense of security. They also learn that they can depend on their caregiver, which creates a secure base that allows them to explore the world around them.¹

This original theory stems from four main types of attachment.¹ While a secure attachment style indicates that your baby feels safe and secure knowing they can depend on you, the other three styles signal an insecure attachment bond. An insecure attachment style can hinder your child’s brain development, impact their mental, emotional, and physical development, and negatively affect their ability to form relationships as they grow.² This arises when caregivers fail to meet their children’s needs, which can happen for various reasons. The three additional attachment styles are:³

Children who are ambivalently attached can be quite suspicious of strangers and experience intense distress when separated from their primary caregiver. However, their caregiver often does not comfort or reassure them when they return and may reject or be aggressive toward them.

Children who are avoidantly attached typically avoid their caregivers. This might be more noticeable after a period of absence. While they might not outwardly reject their parents’ attention or presence, they don’t actively seek out contact with them or comfort from them. They typically don’t know any preference between their caregiver and a stranger.

Children who experience a disorganized attachment pattern with their parents don’t typically show clear attachment behaviors. They respond to their caregiver in a mixed way; they might be avoidant or ambivalent. They may even seem apprehensive or confused by the presence of their caregiver.

Developing a secure attachment style with your baby is essential. When you meet their needs for security and safety, it means their nervous system is optimally developed. Secure attachment in infants allows their developing brain to “organize” itself on a foundation of safety.⁴ I know that sounds a little confusing, but your child’s brain develops and starts to make sense of the world by using early experiences to guide it. So, if your child experiences a strong, secure early relationship, they will usually feel safe, have the energy to explore the world around them, and assume they can trust other people.

Your baby or child who experiences a secure attachment style tends to encounter the following benefits:⁴

Have a healthy sense of self-awareness
Better equipped to identify their needs, share their feelings, and ask for help or support to get their needs met
Increased empathy
Increased feelings of trust (ability to trust others)
Be more eager, willing, and able to learn (which can increase achievement in school)
More independent and willing to explore or try new things
Be more resilient or react better to stressful events
Have better problem-solving skills
Experience stronger, more positive relationships
Have better self-esteem
Be less likely to experience depression or anxiety

Considering the massive benefits, it’s essential to understand how to develop a secure attachment style with your little one. Here are some tips for secure attachment parenting:

This one is a quick win. You will be getting into feeding and sleep routines, and because a secure attachment style with your baby means you are responding to (and are aware of) their needs, this daily activity is already setting you down a good path. As you get to know them, you will start being able to read their cues — “Aha, that’s a cranky, tired cry” versus “That’s their hungry cry.” These form the building blocks of secure attachment, as you will start to follow their cues and respond to their needs.⁵

This one comes with time as you get to know your baby. Their cries might sound similar, but they will show you what they need. You don’t need to get it right 100% of the time, but it’s vital that you pay attention to their facial expressions, postures, etc., try to figure out what they mean, and then respond. Every baby is different, as is their preferred way of being comforted — jiggle them up and down, go somewhere quiet and calm, hold them close and have a cuddle, etc.

You could have a mental checklist of all the possible baby needs and check them off until you get it right. Then, learn from it and try to remember for next time. Remember, babies can cry for complex, inscrutable baby reasons, so sometimes it is about time, patience, and contact with you before they do settle.

Being stressed, overwhelmed, burned out, etc., makes it harder to be present and engaged with your little one. I know it’s easier said than done when your whole life has been tipped upside down by your new arrival. You might be sleep-deprived, and your relationship with your partner, among other things, could change. But try to ask for help or accept it when it’s offered. Ensure that when you have a chance, you engage in self-care. You could pop the baby in the carrier and do some postpartum safe yoga (once you have had your approval from your postpartum check-up). You could pop in your headphones and listen to an audiobook while you are feeding bub or nap trapped. Just try to sneak in ways to look after yourself.

Yes, you will be a big bundle of hormones postpartum, and sometimes, those sleepless nights will make you a bit cranky. However, it’s important to manage your feelings, as our little ones can pick up on our stress and anxiety.⁵ As they feed into your feelings, they will be harder to soothe, exacerbating your stress. It can become a bit of a vicious cycle.

So, find ways to calm down or self-soothe before interacting with your little one. This could be taking a few calm breaths before grabbing them from their crib. Or you could practice progressive muscle relaxation while feeding them or before you get out of bed in the morning. Maybe you could get a stress ball, use calming scent roller balls, get a massage from your partner, or find other nice sensory activities to help you feel calm.

It’s essential to make eye contact, laugh, smile, and enjoy your time with your baby. They will pick up on your cues (i.e., that you enjoy being with them) and feel connected to you and comforted by your actions. You aren’t a robot, so don’t force a smile or expect to be 100% happy 100% of the time. But set some time aside each day to really get on their level and connect. Try to time it for when they aren’t tired or overstimulated; otherwise, it can make them more unsettled.

There is no rulebook or one-size-fits-all approach to creating a strong and secure attachment by meeting your child’s needs. They are just as unique as we are, and so are their preferences. But other reasons or things happening in your world might affect your ability to create a secure attachment style with your baby. Challenges can come from either the side of the parent or baby. From the parent’s side, these barriers can include:⁶

Sleep deprivation
High levels of stress
Lack of support
Living in an unsafe environment (either their home or community)
Depression, anxiety, or other emotional problems (These can impact or make attachment more challenging, but they don’t necessarily equate to insecure attachment. For instance, a parent with
depression might find it harder to develop a secure bond, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that it won’t happen.)
Adverse childhood experiences, including abuse, neglect, or a chaotic childhood
Drug and alcohol problems

Babies with the following characteristics may have challenges with secure attachment:

Some babies have temperaments that are fussier or harder to soothe
Babies who had problems in utero or during delivery
Babies who were born premature or had other reasons that led them to be in intensive care
Those who have been separated from their primary caregiver at birth
Health issues either at birth or from an early age
Babies with many caregivers (inconsistent caregivers)

Remember, you don’t have to be a perfect parent to create a secure bond with your baby. All you need to do is try your best and persist. Secure attachment is about quality and your willingness to respond to your child’s needs, even if you don’t get it right 100% of the time. It can even help attachment become secure if you recognize that you haven’t met their need and correct it. This shows your intention to be aware of their needs and your willingness to meet them.

Parenting can be tricky; there is no manual, and it can be complicated and confusing. So, if you are struggling with attachment or bonding with your child, it’s essential to seek support early on so things can get back on track!

Mindful Parenting: Is It for You?

Rachel Tomlinson — Thu, 18 Jan 2024 11:43:08 +0000

As a parent, my days are spent juggling life, work, and parenting responsibilities and rushing from one activity to the next until I crash into bed. Then, repeat it all the next day. It’s easy to slip into patterns of reacting rather than making conscious parenting decisions when life is so busy. It seems like there is limited time for self-reflection or contemplation when you’re trying to raise tiny humans. If you have ever felt the same, almost like you are stuck on autopilot, you might want to learn more about mindful parenting.

What Is Mindful Parenting?

Mindfulness is not new; it has been practiced for centuries and comes from Buddhist traditions.¹ However, mindfulness has recently been expanded and applied to parenting.² Mindful parenting involves parents learning to become aware of the present moment and focus on themselves (their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors) and their children in intentional, present, and nonjudgmental ways.³

The parent-child relationship quality strongly influences a child’s emotional, social, and cognitive development.⁴ It’s normal across all stages of development for our children to be oppositional or challenging at times. This can lead to parents becoming stressed, which activates stress hormones (in response to a threat). This activates our immune system and, in turn, triggers certain emotions and can change or influence how parents behave or react to their children.⁵

When parents struggle with stress, they can sometimes rely on automatic or unhelpful patterns of behavior, like snapping, being reactive, being overly controlling, rejecting, or being less affectionate toward their children. These are not particularly effective parenting strategies and can result in more challenging behaviors expressed by their children.⁵ Cue a vicious reaction cycle from parents and kids alike.

Mindful Parenting Breaks Patterns

This is where mindful parenting comes into play, as it helps break these patterns. Mindfulness parenting allows us to break automatic (negative) parenting behaviors through nonjudgment and acceptance of both our kids and ourselves. This results in increasingly positive parent-child interactions, better resilience, and coping through compassion, acceptance, and kindness.³ Mindful families learn to respond, not react. When you don’t react, you give yourself space and an opportunity to respond consciously, free from judgment, shame, or other strong feelings. And when we choose our actions, we can better align ourselves with our parenting goals or intentional actions. In addition, when we have space, we can process our strong emotions or unhelpful thoughts and purposefully implement coping strategies. We also see our children’s behavior as communication and can be more empathetic and attuned to their needs.

Benefits of Mindful Parenting

Practicing mindful parenting helps promote a healthy relationship with our kids as we are more attuned, engaged, and empathetic toward them. In addition, there can be a whole range of benefits, such as:⁶

Improved feelings of satisfaction in our experience of parenting
Less anxiety and stress
Increased and improved communication between parents and children
Reduced hyperactivity in children
Reduced aggression
Fewer feelings of depression

Key Factors of Mindful Parenting

There are five key factors associated with being a mindful parent:⁷

1. No Judgment

Accept both yourself and your child without judging your (or their) thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Understanding that everyone makes mistakes removes guilt, shame, or other strong feelings. Instead, you can see these situations as opportunities for learning. You learn that neither you nor your child are perfect, and your expectations for both are more healthy and realistic.

2. Be Present and Give Your Full Attention

When you’re a busy parent, this one can be hard. Your little one wants to show you a wonderful rock they found at the park. (True story: I had to listen to a five-minute blow-by-blow of all the merits of this one particular rock!) But in reality, your mind is being pulled in a hundred directions — what’s for dinner, when does Jenny need to be picked up from piano lessons, your overdue work project. Mindful parenting is about stopping these racing thoughts and focusing on what is happening now. This means being fully present, listening, engaging with your child, and giving them your full attention.

3. Compassion

Be understanding, compassionate, and empathetic to both you and your child. No one is perfect. Mindful parenting is about reassuring yourself and your child that you are wonderful, lovable, and acceptable, just as you are. It gives you both the grace and the space to make mistakes.

4. Emotional Awareness

Tune into those feelings. We often try to avoid strong feelings or particular feelings that are uncomfortable in some way. But when we ignore or push away these emotions, we miss the chance to explore them and figure out what need is underpinning that emotion. We also miss out on opportunities to address issues or problem-solve things that will help our well-being now and in the long term.

5. Manage Those Emotions

When we can identify the emotion, we are better equipped to cope with or manage the feeling. For example, we deal with anger differently than sadness. If we can regulate our emotions and pause or take stock of a situation, we are more able to take a conscious or intentional step forward instead of reacting or responding to our strong emotions.

Mindful Parenting for ADHD

One of the key benefits of mindful parenting is reduced hyperactivity in children.⁶ There is some research indicating that mindful parenting practices can support several symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) in children.³ ADHD is not just about attention; it also influences communication, social interactions, routines, and the ability to plan and coordinate things. It doesn’t just affect children with the diagnosis, either, but their entire families. Parents can become stressed or overwhelmed, resulting in those automatic reactions mentioned above. This family stress can make it harder to manage a child’s ADHD, which further amplifies the stress.

Mindfulness can help break this draining and distressing cycle.³ When you practice mindfulness, you can persevere, be flexible and responsive, be accepting of your child, and find the positives during challenges. This allows you to all be more resilient and able to cope.³

Examples of Mindful Parenting

So, what does mindful parenting look like? Let’s say your child is trying to build a block tower but keeps knocking it over, and eventually, they throw the blocks. Your instinct might be to shout at them, “Stop throwing your toys. You’re going to break them!” Or snatch the toys and pack them away. Mindful parenting would involve pausing to assess your and your child’s emotions and then consider a way forward. You might reflect on things like:

What’s happening for me, and why?
What am I thinking and feeling?
What is my automatic reaction?
What am I going to do instead?
What’s happening for my child?
Is there a message or feeling underpinning their behavior?
How can I help us both regulate and manage our emotions?
I feel some strong emotions, but it doesn’t mean I am a bad parent; it was a challenging situation.
My child is not a bad kid; they were frustrated because they couldn’t make the block tower stay up. It’s okay that they aren’t perfect all the time. Perhaps there is something I can teach them or support them with to reduce their frustration or help them cope more healthily next time.

Ultimately, you might respond to your child by sitting with them, naming their emotions, helping them manage angry feelings, or patiently showing them how to build a block tower that will stay upright.

Here’s another example: At the supermarket, your child spots the candy they want and starts having a tantrum because you said “no.” Your instinct could be to give in and hand over the candy or flee the store. A mindful parent might take the approach of considering their child’s feelings and accepting them. Instead of giving in, running away, or even snapping, they might allow their child to experience discomfort and then name and accept their child’s feelings. “I can see you are mad right now. It’s okay to feel upset you didn’t get the candy you wanted.” Then, offer them support to cope with those big feelings. “I’m right here if you need a hug or want help managing that big angry feeling. Just tell me when you are ready.”

How To Be Mindful With Your Kids

It takes time to learn mindfulness, but remember that you don’t have to be perfect; you have to learn how to “tune in” to the present moment and “tune out” the background noise. Some strategies could include:

Pause: Instead of jumping into action, take a moment. If there is a crisis or a safety issue, go right ahead and react. But I’m not talking about those moments. Unless something is critical, it’s okay to take stock for a moment and figure out what you want and need to manage the situation.
Stop forward planning: Instead of the “what ifs” or “what next,” try to tune those out and stop focusing on the past or the future. Just be in the moment.
Get in touch with your senses: A great way of tuning into the present is by paying attention to your senses. Name five blue things you can see, listen out for three unique sounds you can hear around you, or take off your shoes and wriggle your feet on the carpet/sand/grass and feel the sensation.
Acceptance is key: Acceptance doesn’t mean you have to like something (or that you won’t take action to avoid it in the future if you can). It’s about acknowledging that something has happened and that it’s acceptable. Extend acceptance to you and your child — your behaviors, thoughts, and feelings.
Take a breath: When you are pausing, take a deep breath! Calm breathing can help reduce stress.⁸ Remember when we spoke about stress earlier? It can change how you react and respond. So, bust your feelings of stress by taking a deep, slow breath and returning to the present moment.

It’s easy to slip into bad parenting habits or focus on the challenges. But when you practice mindful parenting, you bring awareness to the good moments instead. You will bring your attention to what your child is trying to communicate, notice the emotions underpinning their message, or see some positives you had missed when you were focused on the negatives. You will also be more kind, compassionate, and empathetic to them and yourself. Practicing mindfulness will improve your child’s resilience and well-being, but you will likely reap the rewards, too!

Attachment Parenting: Is It for You?

Rachel Tomlinson — Wed, 17 Jan 2024 20:49:19 +0000

There is a significant shift in your life from when your baby is born (well, even before birth, let’s be honest). You are suddenly responsible for a tiny human being for whom no one has given you an instruction manual. As you get used to the basics of keeping your little one alive, you might consider what parenting style you will adopt. Let’s explore attachment parenting so you can determine if it’s a style that will fit your beliefs and your family’s unique dynamic.

So, what is attachment parenting? Attachment style parenting is a modern parenting philosophy. It promotes attachment between a parent and child by encouraging empathy, responsiveness to a child’s needs, and using certain “tools” or “strategies” that emphasize emotionally rich interactions between the child and caregiver, as well as encouraging bodily closeness and touch.¹ It can also be referred to as natural parenting, as it focuses on parents relying on their instincts to make decisions about raising their children.

Attachment parenting is a responsive and connection-focused philosophy that emerged after World War II. The first book of its kind was Benjamin Spock’s handbook that suggested mothers should parent according to common sense and loving, physical contact — it was downright radical at the time.² This book influenced parenting post-war and paved the way for new, gentler parenting philosophies like attachment parenting.

William Sears was a pediatrician who wrote several parenting books (along with Martha Sears) and developed a new philosophy, which he initially called “immersion mothering” in his book “Creative Parenting.” ³ He coined the term “attachment parenting” in later books.⁴ Many people confuse attachment parenting with attachment styles, but they are different.

John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth originally defined attachment and four key attachment styles: secure, disorganized, ambivalent, and avoidant.⁵ Their meaning of secure attachment describes how a primary caregiver who is sensitive and responsive to their child’s needs will create a sense of trust in their child. Around the time attachment theories were gaining awareness and momentum, William and Martha Sears indicated that they later changed their parenting philosophy to attachment parenting, as the concept of attachment was increasingly becoming recognized and the theory itself was well-researched.⁶ The term “attachment parenting” and specific links to the attachment theories of Bowlby and Ainsworth only came later. Sears’ work on attachment parenting has not been scientifically linked to secure attachment as the outcome of their strategies.

When Sears developed the principles of attachment parenting, he outlined seven principles based on reading babies’ cues to meet their biological needs. These seven principles are:⁴

Sears outlined that the first six weeks after birth are critical in forming healthy parent-child attachments in the long term. He encourages skin-to-skin contact, constant presence or togetherness, and nurturing the mother provides.

This is seen as a critical element of attachment parenting, as breastfeeding is a natural and healthy way to nurture and soothe a baby. It also encourages close physical contact and creates early bonds when a mother responds to her child’s hunger cries. However, remember that breastfeeding is not always possible for some people; breastfeeding (or not) doesn’t determine who is a good parent.

This refers to having a baby close by at all times and wearing them in a sling or wrap. This is key in attachment parenting, which promotes physical closeness, as the baby is attached to the mom, and she goes about her daily business but constantly provides touch, comfort, and nurturing while “wearing” her baby.

William Sears encourages bed-sharing. He indicates that this reduces separation anxiety overnight and provides easy access to the mom for breastfeeding. Remember, every family needs to explore safe sleep practices and determine the most appropriate sleep arrangements for their family rather than use a one-size-fits-all approach. Please review safe sleeping recommendations before making any decisions.

Instead of seeing crying or screaming as manipulation or a baby being “bad,” attachment parents understand that cries are babies’ only way of communicating their needs. The attachment style of parenting encourages parents to pay close attention to these cries, try to decipher them, and then respond to their needs to foster a strong and secure bond.

William Sears does not promote or condone sleep training in his books. His thoughts center around the lack of training of sleep trainers or consultants and believes that sleep training hardens a mother against her baby’s cries, which disrupts attachment and bonding as she is not responding to the child’s needs. As a result, they will become shut down or nonresponsive. Families should research supports or strategies around getting a good night’s sleep. It is an entirely individual decision to make, is based on unique needs/beliefs, and is one that sits with that family alone

No one can be a perfect parent 100% of the time. Attachment parenting encourages parents to understand and acknowledge that they won’t always get it right, nor should they strive to become perfect. It also acknowledges the challenge of finding a balance between all your needs as a parent — emotional, psychological, and social — while navigating the new and evolving needs of your little one. It’s about finding some time of balance or a happy medium where possible.

As many of the principles align with attachment theories, there are some significant pros to this style of parenting:

Significant research exists and indicates that children with secure attachment to their parents will experience benefits such as:⁷

Being better problem-solvers
Being more independent
Having increased empathy
Being more resilient
Having strong and more positive relationships
Experiencing higher self-esteem
Being less likely to develop depression or anxiety

Although attachment parenting isn’t the same as secure attachment (which is what is referred to in this research), it promotes similar principles. It encourages parents to be sensitive to and responsive to their child’s needs. This can help form a secure attachment. Remember that although the principles are there, the Sears’ work on attachment parenting has not been scientifically linked to secure attachment being the outcome of their strategies.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the World Health Organization (WHO) recommend exclusive breastfeeding for up to 6 months and tandem breastfeeding alongside complementary solids for up to 2 years or older.⁸ Also, 60% of mothers stop breastfeeding before they intend to. One key reason they cite is that they lack support or it’s not part of their cultural norms.⁸ Attachment parenting encourages and promotes breastfeeding, which may help moms who need to see breastfeeding normalized or feel supported to continue their breastfeeding journey.

Some research indicates that when parents are responsive to their child’s needs, it reduces the stress chemicals in their body.⁹ This can positively influence their brain’s development, and they are more resilient or able to cope with stress and regulate their emotions as they grow.

Some cons of this parenting style include:

Although it’s positive to encourage breastfeeding to help normalize it and increase support for it, sometimes, pressure adds stigma or shame if a mother doesn’t wish to or cannot breastfeed for whatever reason. This stress may impact a mother’s self-esteem and well-being. Stress can exacerbate breastfeeding issues, including difficulty with the let-down reflex and decreased breast milk supply.¹⁰ So, all that pressure could have the opposite effect.

There is conflicting research — the AAP says the risk of suffocation or sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) is higher in bed sharing as opposed to room sharing due to potential risks posed by soft bedding, mattresses, or a parent rolling onto their child.¹¹ However, other research indicates that if parents follow safe sleeping practices when bed-sharing, particularly with breastfeeding, it can lower the risk.¹² You and your family must conduct your research to decide whether bed or room sharing is for you, keeping safe sleeping practices paramount in either situation.

The practice of closeness and constant attention to an infant or small child can be exhausting. There are few chances for a break, and some moms feel touched out or have their own life experiences that make touch, being held, or even the sensory input of constantly being around other people (particularly loud, wailing babies) distressing. This parenting approach can make it hard for some moms to establish their sense of self, engage in self-care, and have healthy eating or sleeping patterns. Using some tools or following the strategies 100% of the time might not suit them.

Sears is very vocal about mothers being primary caregivers and fathers being there to help and support mothers, which allows the mother to devote herself to her baby fully. This dynamic will not suit all families. For instance, if the father is the primary caregiver or a child comes into a two-father household, it could alienate or shame their preferences for primary caregiving by dads. Excluding dads or minimizing their role lessens their chance to bond and puts more pressure on moms to take on the lion’s share of caring.¹³

Babies don’t come with an instruction manual, and many parenting books and philosophies make it hard to decide which one to implement. In likelihood, there is no one “right” way; instead, there is a right way for you and your family. It might be attachment parenting, or it could be some combination of various philosophies. Just as long as you ensure that you feel comfortable with your decision and follow safety and best practice guidelines for things like sleep.

The 11 Most Important Social Skills To Teach Kids

Rachel Tomlinson — Tue, 16 Jan 2024 19:01:06 +0000

Humans are built to socialize; we are meant to exist in groups because they bring us a sense of connection and protection. Social interaction is so critical to our health and well-being that a lack of social skills, isolation, and loneliness can increase our risk of mental and physical health issues.¹ Social skills for kids are an essential element of development. While some kids are naturally sociable, many children need to learn certain skills actively and have the opportunity to practice before they get good at them. The process of learning these skills is called socialization.

Despite social skills being integral, children’s socialization is essential because we aren’t necessarily born with all the social skills we will need to navigate the world around us safely (and appropriately). In addition, some skills are complex or become increasingly complicated as we grow up, so learning to socialize can be a lifelong journey.

What Are Social Skills?

The definition of social skills is the tools that someone uses to help them communicate, ask for help, learn, and get their needs met in healthy and appropriate ways. Social skills help kids get along with others, develop healthy relationships, and interact with people in the community around them.²

Why Are Social Skills Important for Kids?

Social skills are incredibly important for kids (and adults alike). Some of the benefits include:^3,4

Higher achievement and success in education
Better quality, healthy relationships with peers (associated with getting along well with others and being able to problem-solve and resolve conflict)
More likely to go to college or further education and be employed in a full-time role (in children who were better at sharing, listening, and following the rules — all critical social skills)
A better predictor of being successful as adults
Fewer experiences of legal troubles and substance use issues
Reduced stress (research found that learning a new social skill reduces cortisol, a stress hormone)

11 Types of Social Skills That Kids Can Learn

Social skills examples include verbal and nonverbal communication, such as speech, gestures, posture, body language, and facial expressions. Particular behaviors or interpersonal skills that are important for our children to learn include:

1. Sharing and Turn-Taking

Our little ones can (at times) be a little selfish or egocentric… it’s all me, mine, now! However, learning and being willing to share with their peers or others around them can help children make and keep friends. Sharing and being compassionate also helps kids feel good about themselves, which can boost their self-esteem.⁴

2. Effective Communication

Effective communication, including listening skills, is vital for kids to learn.⁵ Children are often less frustrated when communicating their needs, thoughts, and opinions. This means they are less likely to have tantrums or express challenging behaviors that might impact people around them. In addition, communication is about being able to listen well. It means you are hearing what someone says and using that information — whether listening to a teacher or following instructions. Or hearing a friend who is upset and understanding that they need support or a hug. Listening is a crucial building block of empathy.⁵

3. Empathy

Understanding someone else’s feelings and using that information to influence how you communicate or interact with them is an important social skill.⁶ Children who understand how their actions might impact others can learn how to change or modify their behavior. This smooths social situations, making them more likely to experience healthy and reciprocal relationships.⁶

4. Making Eye Contact

It seems automatic, but appropriate eye contact can change a social situation’s dynamic.⁷ Have you ever told your child, “Look at me when I’m talking to you”? We usually expect a certain level of eye contact to show that the other person has noticed and is paying attention. Equally, too much eye contact can be intense or uncomfortable — knowing when to look away is also an art form our kids need to learn.

5. Adhering To Boundaries

This is about respect and consent, including personal space.⁸ When our children understand personal boundaries, it helps them create strong and healthy relationships. Some kids like to get right up close and personal or won’t take no for an answer. This can make people feel uncomfortable or upset. So, it’s important to help them understand and respect others’ boundaries.

6. Using Manners

Having good manners can improve social interactions. By learning to say “please” and “thank you” and asking in polite, appropriate ways, people tend to be happier or more agreeable to the request. Or they are likely to help with future requests.

7. Following Directions

Our kids must learn how to listen carefully so they fully understand instructions. They also need the skills (cognitive and emotional) to follow through with the request. Following directions can keep kids safe (don’t touch the hot kettle) or support them in achieving (complete your homework at school). Kids who don’t follow directions may experience negative outcomes or consequences if they can’t — or won’t — follow directions and instructions.

8. Cooperation

This is the process of working together to achieve a joint goal. Cooperation is an important skill in the community, school, and adulthood. It means showing respect when others make a request and contributing and helping others. This requires kids to show respect, understand their role within a group, have good communication skills, and put group needs before their own.⁹

9. Patience

Being able to wait or have self-control is an important skill. Our children can’t possibly get their way every time, nor will they always be able to get what they want when they want it. They need to learn to wait. Kids who develop patience grow into adults who experience better health and well-being, stronger relationships, and achievements or success.¹⁰

10. Positivity

Having a positive mindset is vital for good mental health and well-being. This can also mean that being around a child who sees the positive or looks for opportunities rather than challenges or negatives can be more enjoyable or support positive social interactions.¹¹

11. Problem-Solving

Social problem-solving is an important skill. Children must learn how to analyze, understand, and choose an appropriate response to social problems or conflict.

How To Teach Social Skills to Kids

While some children are naturally more comfortable in social situations, it’s essential to understand how to improve social skills, as they can also be taught (not just innate or part of our temperament). Teaching social skills involves several strategies, including:

Modeling: It’s essential to demonstrate your own positive social skills to your children so they can see how it’s done. Do you want them to use their manners? Well, you need to use yours and set the expectation based on your actions.
Role play: Activities for teaching social skills often involve an element of practice. So, help your child play out or practice scenarios to help them build their social skills. This could mean imagining how they would react or say on their first day of school if they are worried about making new friends. Or practicing turn-taking.
Worksheets: Social skills worksheets for kids can be helpful prompts or opportunities to reflect on their social skills. For example, you could write down some social situations and have them record or map out how they might respond. Or, if there are particular skills they are working on, you could create posters with tips or reminders for the skills and strategies they need to practice or try. These social skills activities might be more suited for preschoolers or those who can read, but using lots of visuals or pictures could work for children who can’t read.
Games: This is probably something you do already. When you play a game, you are practicing turn-taking and patience. Kids also can model or practice how to win and lose graciously.
Songs or books: Read books with themes about sharing, social situations, or different emotions and ways to cope. We can fill their knowledge base and get them thinking about different social skills before exposure to these situations. And it’s a non-threatening way of addressing tricky topics like bullying.

How Can You Tell if Your Child Has Problems With Social Skills?

Remembering that social skills develop over time and with practice is important. So, small children and toddlers might not be very good at navigating groups or cooperating. But it’s important to monitor and see that they are progressing and can learn and apply the information you teach. It’s also important to understand what is age-appropriate or developmentally appropriate and see if your child falls outside these expectations. Some kids may need a little reinforcement, but difficulties with social skills can be a sign of other problems or a specific diagnosis, like attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), autism, hearing loss, anxiety, depression, and more.^12,13,14

If your child struggles with social skills more than others their age, it’s important to explore this with your healthcare provider. Remember that social skills can be taught, even for children experiencing other concerns. So, start small and build their skills up over time.

Parenting Tips for Parents of Newborns to Five Year Olds - Baby Chick

Baby Constipation Remedies: How To Help a Newborn Poop

Signs of Baby Constipation

How Often Should a Newborn Poop?

What Can Cause Baby Constipation?

How To Relieve Constipation in Babies Quickly

When To Talk to a Doctor

How To Prevent Baby Constipation

Helpful Hints on How To Help Your Baby Poop

5-Month-Old Baby: Feeding, Sleep, and Milestones by Month

What Developmental Milestones Should My 5-Month-Old Baby Meet?

What Should My 5-Month-Old Baby’s Feeding Schedule Look Like?

What Should My 5-Month-Old Baby’s Sleep Schedule Look Like?

What Should My 5-Month-Old Baby’s Daily Schedule Look Like?

Are There Any Health Concerns I Need To Watch Out for?

What Are Some Activities I Can Do With My 5-Month-Old Baby?

Safety Tips

12 Signs of a High-Needs Baby and What You Can Do

What Is a High-Needs Baby?

12 Common Characteristics of a High-Needs Baby

1. Intense Reactions

2. Demanding Behavior

3. Hyperactivity

4. Sensitive to Everything

5. Separation Anxiety

6. Does Not Want to be Put Down

7. Unable to Self-Soothe

8. Difficulty Sleeping

9. Not Satisfied

10. Unpredictable and Inconsistent

11. Frequent Feeding

12. You Might Feel Drained

What Causes a High-Needs Baby?

Effects of Being a High-Needs Baby

Does a High-Needs Baby Mean Autism?

Tips to Cope with a High-Needs Baby

Remember: This Too, Shall Pass

Give Yourself Grace

Imagine Life From the Baby’s Point of View

Be Flexible

Learn Your Baby’sLanguage

Have a Basket Full of Tricks

Lean Into Parenthood

Seek Support

Introducing New Foods to Baby With Yogurt Feeding Hacks

The Benefits of Yogurt for Babies

1. Nutritional Advantages

2. Probiotics for Digestive Health

3. Texture and Taste

Feeding Hacks for Introducing New Foods to Baby

1. Cereal

2. Nut Butters

3. Fruits

4. Veggies

Description

Ingredients

Instructions

Notes

Methods for Introducing New Foods to Baby

1. Bowl Feeding

2. Tiny Popsicle Molds

3. Mesh Pacifiers

Tips for Successfully Introducing New Foods to Baby

1. Gradual Introduction

2. Pay Attention to Cues

3. Maintain a Balance

Cross-Eyed Baby: What It Means and What To Do

Is My Baby Cross-Eyed?

Is It Normal for My Baby To Be Cross-Eyed?

Cross-Eyed Baby at One Year

What Causes Cross-Eyes in Babies?

Prematurity

Family History

Medical Conditions

Straining

How To Naturally Fix Crossed Eyes in Babies

Support Visual Development

Practice Tracking

Maintain Balance

When Do Babies’ Eyes Stop Crossing?