Did you know that plants and sex can go hand in hand? I know – that sounds a little strange. But it’s very true – scientific, too!1 I’ve been using essential oils for many years now. After much research and usage in my own life and marriage, we’ve seen some incredible benefits in our bodies, emotions, and health when we’ve incorporated them into our everyday lives. Especially in marriage, sex is something that is very, very important. Yet, at the same time, it’s taboo to talk about — because it is so intimate and because everyone’s relationship and love life are completely different.
So, to keep this as general yet informative as possible, if you’d like to experiment with something fun and natural with your partner this Valentine’s Day, consider using these essential oils to spice things up during sexy time!
1. Ylang Ylang Essential Oil
The name Ylang Ylang means “flower of flowers.” In fact, history shows that ylang-ylang flowers have been used to cover the beds of newlywed couples on their wedding night. It’s uniquely calming, cooling, and euphoric all at the same time. This plant has some potent chemical constituents in it that you should research on your own time, including:
- Linalool
- Germacrene
- Geranyl acetate
- Caryophyllene
- P-cresyl methyl ether
- Methyl benzoate
- Sesquiterpenes
Ylang Ylang has been known for doing wonderful things during intimacy and has many properties that can support a person’s sexual drive, including:
- Enhancing sensuality
- Balancing male-female energies
- Enhancing spiritual attunement
- Combating anger or low self-esteem
- Increasing the focus of thoughts
- Filters out negative emotions
- Restoring confidence and peace
- Encouraging healthy libido
- Encourages positivity
- Improves the look of hair
2. Idaho Blue Spruce Essential Oil
Idaho Blue Spruce branches, needles, and twigs from the tree are used to extract the essential oil. It has a very woody, fresh, evergreen scent and has been used by people for thousands of years. Native Americans would bathe in it to relax the muscles after exercise, use the aroma in spiritual rituals and ceremonies, and the twigs were given as gifts to bring good fortune. Idaho Blue Spruce has chemical constituents that you should research on your own time, but two of them are very apparent in this essential oil. Those include:
- Alpha Pinene
- Limonene
This essential oil has many properties within parts of the tree that can do many things for a person’s sexual drive and performance, including:
- Increasing spiritual closeness
- Heightening sexual pleasure
- Providing quicker arousal and stronger climax
- Relieving tense and stressed muscles
- Invigorating the senses
- Bringing peace and relaxation
- Providing emotional balance and security
- Bringing inner strength
- Increasing energy and libido
- Balancing hormone and testosterone levels
3. Goldenrod Essential Oil
Goldenrod is a commonly known plant for blooming bright yellow flowers, and the flowers are used to distill the essential oil. For the human body, not only does it have a wide range of physical and emotional health benefits, it has been used for hundreds of years to help the marriages of many, many couples. Goldenrod has some potent chemical constituents in it that you should research on your own time, including:
- Saponins
- Rutin
- Phenolic glycosides
Goldenrod has been known for doing wonderful things during intimacy. It has many properties within this plant that can do many things for your relationship, including:
- Supports proper blood flow and circulatory health
- Opens up blood vessels
- Supports libido
- Supports bladder health
- Releases emotional blocks
- Supports kidney health
- Relaxing and calming
- Promotes closeness
- Brings acceptance during difficult life situations
It’s a great essential oil to try this Valentine’s Day.
4. Black Pepper Essential Oil
Hold the phone – black pepper in the bedroom?! Believe it or not, yes! This essential oil is popular among many to use during intimate moments. This essential oil’s properties produce a warming effect similar to his/her store-bought products and are a way more natural option, too. This oil has some potent chemical constituents in it that you should research on your own time, including:
- Limonene
- Pinene
- Myrcene
- Phellandrene
- Beta-caryophyllene
- B-bisabolene
- Sabinene
- Linalol
- Pinocarveol
- a-Terpineol
- Camphene
- a-Terpinene
Black Pepper has been known for doing wonderful things during sexy time. It has many properties within this plant that can do many things for a person’s sexual drive and performance, including:
- Improves circulation and blood flow
- Soothes and relaxes muscles
- Encourages stamina
- Promotes feelings of strength
- Energizing aroma
- Awakens the mind
- Clears emotions
5. Jasmine Essential Oil
The name “Jasmine” comes from the Persian word “Yasmin,” a popular cultural name for a woman – hence why this aroma is so pleasing to women. Jasmine essential oil is extracted from the plant’s flower itself and is commonly called the “Moonlight of the Grove” or the “Queen of the Night.” This essential oil has well over 100 powerful chemical constituents in it that you should research on your own time, including:
- Benzyl Acetate
- Linalol
- Geraniol
- Nerolidol
- Nerol
- Ceosol
- Methyl Anthranilate
Jasmine essential oil is known to boost sex drive because of its powerful effect on the human senses and has been worn by people for thousands of years to attract mates. It has many properties within this plant that can do many things for a person’s sexual health and performance, including:
- Promotes confidence
- Produces a warm sensation
- The alluring and seductive aroma
- Rekindles feelings of love
- Promotes strong relational bonds
- Reduces sexual performance worries or insecurities
- Reduces feelings of inadequacy
- Brings relief during PMS
- Supports healthy skin
- Improves sexual mood
- Combats premature ejaculation
Other popular essential oils to use on Valentine’s Day in the bedroom are Lavender, Peppermint, and Stress Away.
How to Use These Essential Oils
Diffuse Them and Inhale Them!
People love to diffuse their oils of choice in the bedroom because of the powerful frequencies they encourage in the human body. If you and your partner are the kind of couple that plans nights of intimacy, consider diffusing one (or a combo) of these oils in the bedroom with the door shut to really enhance the frequency levels of that space. Or, turn on the diffuser when you are ready to have some alone time. Also, inhaling these oils is highly important because inhaling is a direct line to the limbic part of your brain, which holds the seat of your emotions.
Apply Them!
People have been known to massage 2-3 drops of their oils of choice on the neck, shoulders, inner thighs, and lower abdomen as a way to wind down the body and heighten sexual senses. Many have loved the feeling of adding one drop of essential oil to their Sensation Massage Oil during intimacy, using it as a natural lubricant. Others have applied this directly to the inner thighs, above the pubic bone, or more sensitive sexual areas. Some choose to dilute essential oils, while others do not. It is up to your personal preference.
Many of you might already have an excellent sex life – while some of you might have things you want to improve on. Whether it’s physical performance, emotional support, or spiritual connection, these essential oils (try them on Valentine’s Day) are sure to enhance that special part of your life.
